Taking The Governor Off.
How to Stop Being At War With Yourself
And Return To Your Free-Spirited Self
(The one who knows how to receive everything she desires…
without having to fight for it.)
You might have already spent years trying to get there; the relationship, the success, the ease. Or you already have what you thought you wanted. But you still can’t fully relax into it.
Either way, there’s something holding you back. Like something keeps the governor on, no matter how much you understand, how much you heal, how much you try.
This free video will completely change the way you understand this inner fight.
“The things you long for most…may also be the things your system feels least safe receiving.”
Taking The Governor Off.
How to Stop Being At War With Yourself
And Return To Your Free-Spirited Self
(The one who knows how to receive everything she desires…
without having to fight for it.)
You might have already spent years trying to get there; the relationship, the success, the ease. Or you already have what you thought you wanted. But you still can’t fully relax into it.
Either way, there’s something holding you back. Like something keeps the governor on, no matter how much you understand, how much you heal, how much you try.
This free video will completely change the way you understand this inner fight.
“The things you long for most…may also be the things your system feels least safe receiving.”
This is for you if:
- You understand your patterns intellectually… but still can’t seem to stop living them.
- Your mind rarely fully relaxes.
- You secretly feel guilty resting, receiving, or putting yourself first.
- You’ve spent years trying to “heal correctly.”
- You constantly monitor yourself internally.
- You long for freedom, ease, intimacy, or success… while simultaneously pulling away from them.
- You replay conversations, overthink decisions, or struggle to fully relax — even when things are “fine.”
- You feel exhausted by the constant fight with yourself.
This is for you if:
- You understand your patterns intellectually… but still can’t seem to stop living them.
- Your mind rarely fully relaxes.
- You secretly feel guilty resting, receiving, or putting yourself first.
- You’ve spent years trying to “heal correctly.”
- You constantly monitor yourself internally.
- You long for freedom, ease, intimacy, or success… while simultaneously pulling away from them.
- You replay conversations, overthink decisions, or struggle to fully relax — even when things are “fine.”
- You feel exhausted by the constant fight with yourself.
“What if the exhaustion isn’t coming from your trauma…but from fighting yourself all day long?”
What You’ll learn in this video.
- Why so much healing work unknowingly perpetuates the fight
- The hidden mechanism that keeps intelligent women stuck in cycles of overthinking, tension, and “almost”
- Why the things you long for most can also feel the least safe to receive
- Why relaxation itself can feel dangerous to the body
- The difference between the protective separate self… and the free-spirited self underneath it
- Why true freedom isn’t about becoming someone new — but remembering what was never yours to hold
What You’ll learn in this video.
- Why so much healing work unknowingly perpetuates the fight
- The hidden mechanism that keeps intelligent women stuck in cycles of overthinking, tension, and “almost”
- Why the things you long for most can also feel the least safe to receive
- Why relaxation itself can feel dangerous to the body
- The difference between the protective separate self… and the free-spirited self underneath it
- Why true freedom isn’t about becoming someone new — but remembering what was never yours to hold
What begins to change when the fight relaxes?
- Your body starts relaxing without guilt.
- Clarity arrives without overthinking.
- Boundaries become neutral instead of terrifying.
- Intuition gets louder than your intellect.
- You stop feeling responsible for holding everything together alone.
- Life starts feeling less like a fight… and more like something you naturally receive.
“And this understanding changed not only the way I worked with clients…
but the way I understood freedom itself.”
What begins to change when the fight relaxes?
- Your body starts relaxing without guilt.
- Clarity arrives without overthinking.
- Boundaries become neutral instead of terrifying.
- Intuition gets louder than your intellect.
- You stop feeling responsible for holding everything together alone.
- Life starts feeling less like a fight… and more like something you naturally receive.
“And this understanding changed not only the way I worked with clients…
but the way I understood freedom itself.”
Your host
Femke Mortimore
For years, I immersed myself in transformational work.
I even wrote a book on transformational coaching that was part of a college curriculum for business and leadership coaching.
Built an entire system around helping people uncover subconscious patterns. Worked deeply with beliefs, emotional triggers, nervous system responses, and identity.
And despite all of that understanding…
I still noticed something underneath the surface.
A constant tension.
A subtle fight.
An inability to fully relax into life.
What changed everything was realizing that the very identity trying to heal and free me, and others…
was itself organized around protection.